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A New Year, A New Direction

Rope Bondage doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

I first got into rope bondage because my partner was into it, and I was determined to be able to do it. It was a connection that was important to me, and I was super keen to pick up that skill, because it would benefit that connection.

Kind of a relationship skill, when you think about it.

Over the last year, I’ve started thinking a lot harder about maintaining healthy kinky connections and relationships. Because rope bondage is one very useful skill that can be used to add to a connection or relationship, or just to enjoy on it’s own, but there are a lot of other factors which are important and useful to look at for maintaining a healthy connection.

Some of the things that have caused me to think harder about this stuff include:

  • receiving emails and giant wall of texts messages from people who wanted to know how to make kinky relationships work in respectful and healthy ways
  • engaging in a new relationship myself
  • and being consulted for advice by a friend who had been in a really unhealthy connection, but had been given the impression that “that’s how kinky relationships work”

It was actually that last that cause me to think that maybe there still isn’t enough information out there about what a healthy kinky relationship might look like.

So all of this has led me in the direction of expanding my writing here on Rope Connections.

I’m still going to write about rope and rope bondage; but I’m also going to delve into the kinky connections and some of the useful principles which can make them better, giving hopefully everyone (including myself) better relationship experiences. Better problems than they might otherwise be having.

I want to have hot, kinky rope bondage fun; I want to have sexy, fulfilling relationships; and I want to do all of it in such a way that it leaves me and my partners happy, healthy, and better off than before.

And I’m betting that most of the people who end up on this site want that too.

The last ten years have been full of kinky relationship experiences, and that’s been a hell of a ride, with lots of mistakes made, lots of successes, and lots of lessons learned. I’m planning to combine those experiences with healthy relationship research and ongoing testing and experimentation.

Basically, I want the best from my current relationship, and all my future connections, as well. This shit is important – I want to get better and better at it.

I’m going to consolidate a lot of what I learn into reasonably approachable and useful blog posts. Lots of it will be for my benefit, but I’m hoping it’s useful for you as well.

I’ll be writing again soon. See you then!

6 thoughts on “A New Year, A New Direction

  1. If your interested in a request, I have read your book and would like more information on setting up healthy scenes such as the one in your short stories. Successful scenes that you have designed and the broken down aspects behind the pre-planning and what worked/didn’t work throughout the scene.

    1. That’s really good feedback, and I appreciate it!

  2. I Love Love Love this new supplemental direction. So Important!!! I’ll be looking forward to more and perhaps will share. I’m a bit shy.

    also I love your book, bought it twice kindle and ePub versions. I wanted to print it out because I flip around al lot and it’s tough on the ereader. Have you considered having a Lulu account so people could purchase and receive a printed version?

    1. I’ve considered it a couple of times but it hasn’t happened yet, primarily due to poor stress management over the last year. It may happen in 2021.
      Thanks so much for the encouragement! Writing about healthy relationships is going to be challenging (healthily so, I think) because I can’t do it without acknowledging those past mistakes. I really appreciate the support, guys!

  3. Thanks man. Your book and writings have helped me a lot. Keep it up. – K-

  4. Looking for bondage for men any ideas Fem Dom just misses the target. Man to man sires are for a different flavor and misses it too. Women in rope is hard to convert to a nice man’s body but I try. I like tying him up.

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