There’s tying wrists, and then there’s tying wrists in such a way that it’s prettier, more inescapable, and pretty much guaranteed not to tighten down on your partner.
All of which I’m a fan of.
So today I’m going to share my favorite way of doing that.
Often, when people tie wrists, they leave the knot on top of the wrists.
Which isn’t generally a problem; because you’re tying a nice, obedient person who’s looking forward to all the good times. Other times, you’re tying someone who’s going to be pesky and try to escape, for whatever reason.
And that’s when having a knot on top becomes a problem; because that means that the person tied up can easily reach the knot with their teeth, and proceed to wreak havoc on it.
The fact that the knot is on top of the wrists also means that it just doesn’t look as clean and tidy as it could; while looks aren’t that important during play, it’s still nice to have good looking ties on other occasions, like when you’re leading someone around at a party, doing ceremonial or aesthetic rope bondage, whatever.
So it’s good to have another way of doing things.
Here’s the recipe.
Step One: The Position: grasp your rope bottom firmly by the wrists, bring their hands together in front of their chest, and using their joined wrists as a handle, push them firmly down onto their back, so that they’re now lying down. This presents the bottom of their wrists to your convenience, and also has the added advantage of giving the scene a very assertive, directive flavor right from the beginning.
(Pro-Tip: Telling the person you’re tying to put their elbows together will make your life easier; this means you’re tying a column, as opposed to a triangle. Learning this saved me a lot of hassle.)
Step Two: The Tie
Begin wrapping the rope forward over their wrists.
Make sure you get at least two lengths of doubled rope over their wrists.
Once you’ve done that, bring both ends of rope upward.
And now cross them over
Pro-Tip the second: if you don’t have enough room to wiggle the bight between her wrists (or under the bands, later on) they’re too close together. Give yourself a little slack and tell the person you’re tying to separate their wrists a little more. It helps a LOT.
The bight goes underneath ALL of the wraps. That’s the top set, and the bottom set on the other side of the wrists.
While the other hand forms a loop by making a simple twist.
The bight, marked with arrows in this picture, then goes through the loop I made in the previous picture, and then under just the TOP set of wraps, on this side of the wrist.
Now put the bight through the loop again, for the last time (it’s now gone through the loop twice)
And tighten down. This is mostly accomplished by pulling the trailing end at the top of the photo, which tightens down the knot and holds it closed.
Ta da! A clean, flat, compact knot, which I have never seen collapse, and which won’t tighten down on your partners wrists after it’s finished. It’s a variant of a bowline, closely related to the Sommerville Bowline, Strugglers Knot, and Burlington Bowline. All of which are built on the same principles. All the tightening goes to just that top band of rope, so it’s not pinching both bottom and top bands of rope together too much, and the wrists aren’t being badly compressed.
And the final result looks so damn pretty. All clean and smooth and nice looking. Mmm, that there’s a a good looking set of bound wrists.
Whatever else you do with your trailing ends, however you incorporate it into a tie, that knot will hold everything closed without compacting the bands of rope together any further. Which I always find helpful to know; it means I’m now free to have more fun without that niggling worry.
[Just a thought; if people can let me know whether these instructions make sense and if they can follow them without difficulty, that would be enormously helpful. Any difficulties may be able to be resolved with editing]
Credit for photos go to cbt42, a very cool erotic photographer I happen to know.