Dominance and submission Archives : Rope Connections

Posted on October 26, 2023October 26, 2023 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Shibari Hojo Cuff Techniques

I’ve been playing with different ways of doing the hojo cuff. It’s an incredibly useful little rope move, but as with any tie, working out how to do it smoothly as a part of play can be in interesting challenge.

Here’s what I’ve got so far. It’s all about the finger work… and the dominance.

Posted on July 27, 2023July 27, 2023 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Consequences (A Spanking Scene)

The story of a delightful spanking scene…

I’m a bit sick this month, because it’s winter where I am and my whole team at work have been cheerfully exchanging winter plagues.

I got hit twice, it freaking sucks, and it’s still going on.

However, I did recently write up the story of an excellent scene. It was delightful, and it was fun, and I thoroughly enjoy remembering it.

Hope you enjoy.

Posted on January 17, 2022January 17, 2022 by Pete Riggs — 1 Comment

Lovense Review: Creating Orgasms With Your Voice

Lovense review; yes, I have once again splurged on new toys for Christmas, and honestly; they’ve turned out to be amazing. So here’s a review for you – pros, cons, and an bonus new superpower.

Posted on June 30, 2021June 30, 2021 by Pete Riggs — 4 Comments

Improving Your Kink Life: Practicing Appreciation

Life comes with inevitable challenges, and so do relationships of all types, kinky and otherwise.

One of the greatest contributors to resilience and creating ongoing enjoyment is quite literally practicing appreciation – and this post tells you how my pet and I are hacking this to improve our kink lives even further.

Posted on February 18, 2021February 23, 2021 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Doing BDSM When You Have An Injury

Injuries happen, and they can impact on you and your BDSM play tremendously. Sometimes it’s not you – it’s your partner or play partner that gets injured. Here’s how to do BDSM when you have an injury.

Note: All information is my own opinion. Always consult with a medical professional before undertaking activities which may create, prolong or exacerbate injury.

Posted on January 12, 2021January 13, 2021 by Pete Riggs — 2 Comments

The Best App For D/s (Dominance and Submission)

Today I’m reviewing the best app for D/s (dominance and submission) that I’ve found so far.

My pet and I have been testing this for roughly a year, and we’ve both found it really useful in helping to support our D/s dynamic.

I do want to point out that you don’t NEED an app for a D/s dynamic. In fact, I found the very idea of having an app for D/s laughable at first.

Like, what would it do? Punish your submissive for you?

There’s this old trope that “there’s an app for that” in relation to pretty much anything. So one day, a bit over a year ago in good old 2019, I did a search out of sheer curiosity.

Mostly, I found D/s (dominance and submission) dating websites.

But then, I actually did find an app designed to help facilitate D/s. I was curious, and decided to experiment with it within my relationship.

To my surprise, it turned out that it’s actually pretty great. So after extensive discussion with my pet about what we both like about the app, I’ve decided to share our results.

Posted on November 20, 2020January 12, 2021 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

Post Play Review: 3 Scenes At A Party. Pet Play, Bondage and Beatings

Hi all!

It’s been a busy and turbulent time of late, with lots of crazy disruption. I’ve decided to take a break from my usual formats, and instead write another post play review, which I find is always a useful exercise.

With this year having been as insane and up and down and turbulent as it’s been, I’ve done a lot less play, and far fewer reviews following that play.

Here’s hoping this helps turn it around! This review covers a recent scene I did which involved rope bondage, pet play, impact, and weaving different types of dominance and submission throughout to maintain the enjoyment of both parties. I’ve included the usual questions I ask myself as part of the review.

I hope you enjoy it!

Posted on September 7, 2020October 19, 2020 by Pete Riggs — Leave a comment

How To Be A Good Dominant – 6 Useful Principles

“How to be a good dominant” is a question I’ve been asking myself and the world for quite a few years now. This post discusses some of the most useful principles for achieving that goal, and having better, healthier dominance and submission relationships.

When I first started out, there wasn’t a particularly coherent model of “dominance and submission” available. There were snippets. Extremely varied ideas and opinions spread by lots of people, heavily influenced by fiction. I had to try a lot of different things out to see what worked well, and a lot of it didn’t, which led to some epic mistakes.

However, since then, I’ve tested a lot, and researched a lot more, and eventually found a set of principles that can be successfully applied to pretty much any D/s dynamic.

Since I’ve discovered these… the rewards have been unbelievable. Far more than I could have imagined, from the kinky mindblowing sex to the warmth and joy of a consensual power dynamic that exists far outside the bedroom. It’s difficult to list all the rewards, but I’ve added some at the end of the post.

It’s been a hell of a journey learning this stuff, but it’s been worth it. These principles now form the core of my own model of dominance and submission, and I’m hoping that in sharing them with you, I can support your journey as well.