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How To Be A Good Casual Play Partner

In the realm of healthy kinky relationships, we often end up with “casual play partners” who we really enjoy playing with, but whom we don’t intend to get involved with in a romantic or D/s relationship sense. 

This sort of thing often occurs when we’re determined to be single for a while, but still want to enjoy some really nice kinky play with people we enjoy spending time with. 

Today’s post explores some of the fun considerations involved in being a good, or better yet great casual play partner. 

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Using Nylon Rope For Bondage

When it comes to using nylon rope for bondage, I’ve procrastinated for a very long time, but have finally gotten around to getting some! Let’s call it my Christmas present to myself. So today’s post will be examining nylon rope and giving you guys a decent look at it, and at the pros and cons of using nylon rope for bondage. 

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Boundaries In Kinky Relationships

Every now and then, in any relationship, we’ll encounter behaviours that aren’t very good for us.

And this is true for kinky relationships as well. This post discusses some of the behaviours we can encounter, and how we can positively address those behaviours so we can keep living our healthy kinky lives in a good way. 

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Guest Post: The Trials of Removing Smells From Bondage Rope

Today we have a guest post from my friend Dexter, who recently conducted a whole bunch of experiments in how to remove a terrible smell from rope. This was a learning opportunity for me as well, so I’m probably going to find the learning just as useful as you will!

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How To Make Time For Kink And Sex

I had an email asking me how people fit kinky scenes into their week when they’re working full time and have a lot going on. Fair enough! I can definitely relate to the difficulties there.

I figured it probably wasn’t just this person who had that problem, so here comes another post with the strategies I’m using at the moment. 

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How To Do A Sensual Rope Scene

I fucking love sensual rope scenes. They are absolutely one of my favorite types of scene to do, and I take great delight in them. 

I find that they’re a great way to top someone and be all dominant with hot top energy, without any use of pain. It’s all about the bondage, power, and intimacy. 

Recently I got an email asking for more information on how to do a scene like this, so I’m laying out some ideas. It’s not a point by point “do this, then that”, but more a set of principles and ideas that you can use to create your own rope bondage wizardry with whomever you like. 

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Improving Your Kink Life: Practicing Appreciation

Life comes with inevitable challenges, and so do relationships of all types, kinky and otherwise.

One of the greatest contributors to resilience and creating ongoing enjoyment is quite literally practicing appreciation – and this post tells you how my pet and I are hacking this to improve our kink lives even further.

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Post Play Review: The Second Time I’ve Had To Cut The Rope

And now it’s time for another post play review! 

I’m writing this up literally the day after it happened, and it’s very fresh in my head. This review covers a few different BDSM aspects in one scene – psychological/erotic conditioning, dominance and submission, a bit of degradation, and quite a bit of rope bondage – and a situation where I actually had to cut the rope off in a bit of an emergency. 

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