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How To Create A Simple Home Dungeon For BDSM

Today I’m discussing a very versatile piece of equipment for practicing BDSM in the home, and which comes a lot of additional compound benefits. I can absolutely promise that this will provide some very good ideas for play or for your own home dungeon; how you use those ideas will be up to you. I do have to say though, that I’m very excited about this piece of equipment; and I’m already having a hell of a lot of fun using it. It’s been a very fun week!

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Rope Bondage The Smart Way Preview: Fun and Games With Crotch Ropes

This post is taken directly from some of the new material in Rope Bondage The Smart Way. There’s quite a lot like it in there, but I chose this particular piece to offer for free because it’s quite a lot of fun, and is useful for all sorts of things (Also, Blue is pretty hot. I’m enjoying showing her off, and I’m proud of her inventiveness).

I wasn’t planning to do a crotch rope tutorial, because honestly they’re pretty easily found on the Internet.

However, due to a recent and very fun occurrence, I’ve decided that in conjunction with the right information, they’re so freaking valuable that I should most definitely not miss them out. That would be a terrible plan. You DEFINITELY deserve the opportunity to enjoy this. If you read to the bottom of the post, you might just learn a very useful new trick.

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New Book: Rope Bondage The Smart Way

Lately, I’ve been working on an additional project, designed to be of greater help than this site is. And it’s finally finished.

So for those of you who have been requesting a book form of what can be found on this site… you’re getting your wish!

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How To Treat Hemp Rope For Bondage (Guest Post)

Today I have a guest post from Tess, a rope artist who has supplied a significant amount of information on hemp rope and how to treat hemp rope in the comments on the best rope for bondage. Because not everybody reads the comments, I asked her permission to turn the information into a coherent post, so that more people will have the chance to see it and apply this knowledge when thinking about getting or treating hemp rope for bondage.  The pictures within this post were supplied by Tess (note: the featured photo shows hemp (top) and Moco jute (bottom) both processed the same way, on the same day. The hemp was washed first and has been used since; but look at the difference!)

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Enter The Marionnette

This post discusses a fun little suspension that I learned from Mishibari on Youtube; when and how I’d use it, and how freaking fun it is.  Continue reading

​Finding Partners And Teachers 

I’m writing this post in response to a very well written and politely worded email from a gentleman named Steve.
I’ve written a lot about learning how to tie and useful ways to practice, as well as why people enjoy bondage.
What I haven’t written about so much is how to find partners in your nearby community, and how to meet people with that common interest in rope or in being tied up,and building your reputation so that people feel safe to approach you.
So I’m going to lay out a few strategies, and then I’m going to leave a call to action for others to add additional ideas on the comments, because it’s a big wide world and it’s always great to get additional ideas from others who do this kind of thing.

Simplest Version:

Join Fetlife.

Create a profile which contains some pictures, not necessarily of your face or genitals, but something which shows something of you and your interests (I tend to use shots of me which don’t show my face, but aren’t cock shots either – because what I’m trying to convey is my body type and that I’m a real person, but without giving away too much information, or being too obsessed with my appendage; and how much is too much is something that’s for you to decide).

It’s helpful to have a picture or three of your rope work so that people know you can actually tie, and some decent writing on your profile which conveys your personality and values.
Next, look for your local groups. There’s a “near me” function on Fetlife that makes that much easier. If you’re lucky, there is an organised group or two in your location. That’s great. Try to join that group and start attending some events. If you can, start small. You may message the group leader first, and ask if you could meet them for a coffee because you’re a bit nervous, or some groups have official “greeters” who perform this function.
Go to a few events, get to know the people in the group. They WILL ask about your interests; they kind of have to, because that’s what the groups are all about. When you tell them that you’re into rope bondage, if there are other people there who are also into it, they tend to point to them and go “Oh cool! That person over there likes rope too.”
Boom, possible teacher. Or, possible competitive douchebag. You just never know. Hence you ask around about the person and see what people think, in a discreet and non-obvious fashion.

Other times, you’ll get people who will say that they’ve always wanted to be tied up, or that they’ve been tied up before.
IT IS CRITICAL to be forthcoming about your level of experience. Transparency and honesty about this sort of thing can make or break your reputation, and you really want to start out well when you’re new.
So if someone says they are interested in being tied up, and asks you what your level of experience is, tell them. If they don’t, still tell them. And then say that you’re interested in learning new things, and that you hope they might be a good person to learn with. Sometimes they will, sometimes they won’t. It’s useful to get to know them before making that judgement call. Again, ask around about that person.

It isn’t about how good you are now. It’s about how you present yourself, how you prove yourself trustworthy, and how you’re willing to learn.

Less Simple Strategy:

You might find yourself in a situation where there are no nearby BDSM groups that you’re aware of, or that Fetlife is telling you about.

In this instance, you need to think about open minded people, who are already a bit alternative.

Because there tend to be a few groups like that around; fire artists, burlesque performers, people into aerial silks ( I met a great suspension model who wanted to try it because it looked like aerial silks), circus arts people, poly groups, LGBT groups, goth/punk other sorts of groups, you name it.

The idea here is that people who are alternative and open minded in one way are often more likely to be alternative and open minded in another. That’s why you often get a person who belongs to multiple alt groups.

So shop around; you’re likely to meet some really interesting people and learn some really cool things, while you’re looking for prospective rope bunnies. Eventually you’ll find someone who’s keen on the idea. Again, be fairly forthcoming and honest; establish that trustworthiness right from the beginning. You may like to show them some awesome pictures you’ve saved on your phone to perk their interest or illustrate what you’re talking about; I suggest using pictures which are simple, replicable, and attractive.

The Internet Dating Strategy:

Use Tinder, OkCupid, and other dating sites to create a profile. Maybe a little less explicit than a Fetlife profile, but still heavily hinting at what you’re into, for example shibari or wanting to tie people up. As an example of how this works, you can assume that people that match with you on Tinder are at least somewhat open minded or curious about your bondage stuff. You will probably need to be proactive about this, so if someone matches with you, message them. And message them well. Look up tips and tricks on how not to come off as a totally shallow person when you send someone a first message.

Sometimes people will message you first. That’s great! When it’s not a bot.

The Straightforward Strategy

You may already have suitable friends or acquaintances, who you’re a little attracted to, or who might be interested or open minded enough to be keen to be your model. It’s scary to ask; but how you approach it can make a difference. “I’ve been learning this really interesting style of rope art; want to see some pictures?” “Yeah, it looks really cool – I’m coming along in getting better at it, but I need someone to practice with. Would you be keen?” (If it’s someone you have a non-intimate connection to, you may suggest that they can watch TV or something while you practice on them – it clears that possibility out of their heads if you want them distracted by something else. Clearly, you don’t want to get into them if you’d rather they watch their favourite show on Netflix.)

(Oh, just had an idea; forget Netflix and chill; Netflix and rope, anyone?)
Just one caveat to the last strategy though: keep in mind that bondage can create accidental or unexpected intimacy, which might activate unforeseen chemistry. Be careful who you pick; like the partner of your friend may not be the best person. Just a thought.

Okay! So these are some basic strategies for looking for rope partners etc; you’ll probably find that many rope teachers near you advertise on Fetlife or on personal websites. That may not be doable; so don’t hesitate to learn from the internet or from people you meet who are also into rope and may have more experience from you, or even just different experience than you. There’s always more to learn.

Now, if anyone else can leave their tips in the comments, that would be freaking awesome! We could create a forum or something. How to pick up, rope bondage style 😉

The Booto Hip Harness

I honestly couldn’t decide whether to call this hip harness the “Booto” or the “Hot Cross Bum”, but I’ve decided to go with “Booto” because it’s shorter. This thing is really useful for partial and full suspensions, and potentially for increasing sensitivity on the ass as well, should you be keen on that sort of thing (think spanking and impact).

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Preventing People From Undoing Your Knots

Every now and then we end up tying people who are determined to be… well, tricksy. Who will try and untie your knots and escape your rope. And sometimes that’s the nature of the game. “Let’s see how long it takes you to get out.”

And sometimes, we want to make life more difficult for such people.

So below is a very simple trick to make escape a lot more difficult.

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Cross Legged Bondage Ties

Today I’m looking at why you’d want to tie someone into a cross legged position, and how you’d do it.

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How To Create The “Dramatic” Rope Hank

Today I’m showing you a video on how to store your rope in such a way as to snap it out dramatically just before you play.

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