I’m writing this post in response to a very well written and politely worded email from a gentleman named Steve.
I’ve written a lot about learning how to tie and useful ways to practice, as well as why people enjoy bondage.
What I haven’t written about so much is how to find partners in your nearby community, and how to meet people with that common interest in rope or in being tied up,and building your reputation so that people feel safe to approach you.
So I’m going to lay out a few strategies, and then I’m going to leave a call to action for others to add additional ideas on the comments, because it’s a big wide world and it’s always great to get additional ideas from others who do this kind of thing.
These days, I like to think that I’m pretty reasonable with rope bondage and using rope to create hot times.
But believe me, it’s been a journey. There have been some real bloopers along the way, and embarrassing though they are, I’ve decided to share them with you so that you don’t go through what I did.
Every single mistake listed taught me very real, meaningful, and important lessons that have helped me be more successful in creating positive, intense, and erotic experiences for me and my play partners. Continue reading
There are two reasons why I wrote this particular post.
1. The first is for myself. I think it’s really important to know why I do what I do; what I like about it, what I love about it. I think being able to articulate why I do this stuff – why I like to tie people – is really important in keeping myself motivated in learning more, and also in keeping my focus where it should be – having a really hot time with someone I want to have a hot time with.
2. The second is for you guys! For people who are interested in learning, and for people who just don’t understand why one person would want to tie another up, and what we get out of it.
I mean, people who enjoy being tied up probably don’t get it why it’s fun for someone to tie them up; they know how it feels to be tied, but why is it fun to do the tying?
So this post is for people who enjoy being tied, too. People who might like to know what it’s like on the other side of the rope.
So, where to begin?
This is actually a little bit embarrassing. Continue reading
So the last post was an overview of the physical risks with rope bondage.
It may have left a distinctly scary impression.
That was intentional. There is a lot of risk with bondage. And it needs to be acknowledged.
That stuff CAN happen.
So today, I’m going to give you the knowledge you need to fix those problems before they even come up.
This is the kind of question I come across all the time on rope bondage groups and at beginners workshops.
And the answer is, inevitably (drum-roll please):